21. February 2020
How Emotional Intelligence Can Protect Kids from the Perils of Online Gambling
_When it comes to intelligence, there are two different categories – cognitive and emotional. The latter, believe it or not, can save children from the perils of online gambling. How is this so? Well, if you keep reading all will be revealed. _
The Difference Between the Two
Before we go on, we think that it imperative that we make sure that we state what the difference is between the two different types of intelligence.
Cognitive intelligence – This includes intellectual abilities like reasoning, writing, reading, prioritizing, and analyzing. These are things that go on inside your own head and use the neocortex of your brain, not the emotional side parts of the brain. These skills do not require social skills as you can solve a math problem by yourself, write an essay by yourself, or balance your books by yourself.
Emotional intelligence – This means that you can understand your emotions as well as the emotions of those around you. You can then use this information to help bring out the best outcomes for everyone concerned. Being able to work with others as well as being able to work alone is another sign of emotional intelligence.
How Emotional Intelligence Can Protect Children from Online Gambling
We try our best to keep our kids safe from the dangers of drugs and alcohol because we understand the risks of these substances from out own experiences growing up. Us parents are often very relieved when our children are sitting in front of a computer screen or glued to their phones doing God knows what.
We often forget that that there is a hidden danger in our homes that can get at children through their computer or through their smartphone. This danger is online gambling and the statistics are pretty scary to say the least. At the time of writing, 23% of teenager boys admit to gambling online. In fact, teenagers are now more than likely to gamble online than they are to take drugs or drink alcohol.
Many of us do not know how to spot the symptoms of an online gambling addiction or understand just what it is that makes online gambling so addictive to children. As a result, it can be very difficult to have those important conversations with our kids. You can tell your child to never take drugs, but they cannot really say no to interaction online.
Anyway, many specialist gambling therapists believe that restriction is not enough to fully eradicate the risk. In order to decrease the chances of addiction, us as parents need to pay attention to how long they spend online as well as what they are doing while they are online. Furthermore, it is important that we pay attention to their feelings and thoughts as well.
According to some surveys, online gambling can be linked to bullying as it is a good way for the child who is being bullied to forget about their** depression, anxiety, and stress for a period of time**. Nowadays, more and more youngsters are suffering from mental health issues – this can be caused by the stresses of school, anxiety about how they look, and worries about their parents’ upcoming divorce.
We all know that our teenage years are some of the most confusing times and that we welcome anything that will help to numb emotional pain. When we give a young child a smartphone in order to quell their tantrum, what we are inadvertently doing is teaching that child to associate digital devices with self-soothing. Gambling is something that our kids are regularly exposed to thanks to the many advertisements that are on television as well as the fact that in most families there is at least one adult that likes to gamble.
In the digital world, you can create your own character and you can become something stronger than what you are in real life. In games you can buy ammunition using virtual – being a warrior online is much better than being a victim in the classroom. Playing online games and being victorious will make you feel like a winner. You can then use the winnings to improve your digital character and feel even more empowered.
Spending money on computer games can lead to bigger problems when it comes to gambling. Stealing a parent’s bank card to borrow a few dollars will often result in a lot more money being spent because the child is used to spending fake money. When they realize that they have spent a lot of their parents’ real money, they will try to win it back, **which results in a destructive cycle and a whole lot of issues. **
So, is there actually a way that we can decrease the risk to our children? Something that is known to help prevent addiction is healthy relationships, a strong sense of identity, and emotional and mental resilience. We practice these skills during childhood, but they are things that take time to learn. However, we all lead busy lifestyles now, so time is not really something that is of the essence.
Nowadays, children are being denied the chance to develop social skills due to social media use. You cannot learn how to solve a real-life conflict by blocking someone on Facebook. You cannot learn how to talk to someone about an awkward conversation by doing it by text. **We could go on forever here. **
However, we have got to be realistic as the virtual world is not going anywhere. Preventing access to digital world and online gambling is something that is impossible. Trying to teach your child about the low odds of winning is pretty pointless when most children are not gambling to win money.
What is possible though is to teach your children emotional intelligence. You need to teach them how to normalize feelings and manage how to manage them. We also need to be smart here and practice what we are preaching. For example, if you have had a long day at work, do not rush in, sit down, and pick up your tablet or turn on your computer. Instead, tell your children that you are going for a nice walk in the park.
Online gambling is a threat to our children, but it is a threat that **we can significantly reduce if we teach them how to best deal with their emotions. **